As a recovering control freak I have learned, that there are only three things in your life that you can actually control. They are:
- your attitude,
- your thoughts and
- your actions.
The rest is exclusively taken care by other people, by the weather,by the Moon, by the traffic by the Universe/God……
I am one of these people that love fixing things and people and situations, I have this ego desire to make things better all the time and fix everything and everyone.
Recently I am getting better at realizing, that some things are meant to broken and some painful situations are here to support us to grow and love each other more.
So I have come up with a list with a few very simple things to let go control of.Taking the effort to do it has made a big difference in my life.
It is a constant journey but it’s truly worth it.
One of my all time favourite songs is a song by the Beatles called “Let it be”. It is great to let it be but there are some things that you have to let go on order to increase your productive energy.
1.Let go of taking things personally– This one is a big one. Nothing that anyone ever do is because of you. Generally people try their best.Almost always people do what they like, love and feel drawn into and it has nothing to do with you. There are an exemptions, but there is no formula to respond.
2. Let go of guilt -This is by far one of the most useless emotions, ever. It s very easy to fall into the trap of self criticism and one of the easiest ways to do it is when you start comparing yourself to others. Apart from comparing yourself to others there is also another way to self criticize and that is when we set expectations about ourselves. If we don’t fulfil them we feel guilty. I have done this many times. Guilt for not being a good enough, mother, daughter, sister, friend, employee, blogger and so on. It is a useless activity. This is an opportunity to truly take charge and start being truthful and deal with each situation with confidence, self respect and dignity.
3.Let go of need of other’s approval-This is another big one for me.Sometimes it’s in the form of others simply liking me. I have spent countless hours of doing things to avoid criticism fear of being disliked or dis approved, but as time went I have learned, that when you are saying no to yourself you are doing a bigger damage, than by simply saying “no” when you feel you should. Other’s approval is an illusion -it’s just someone else’s opinion and someone else’s truth .No matter how much you love them, they are not you. Stick to your gut and intuition and take action, that is true to you.
Thank you very much for reading my blog posts! I love you.
Be well, be wild and enjoy the ride!
P.S I am doing a post a day for 365 days. This is day 6.