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I am a vegan mother that doesn’t have vegan kids.

I have 4 amazing boys-14, 13, 10 and my youngest son is only 20 months old.

I allow my older boys to eat whatever they like and haven’t made any restriction regarding pizza or any other foods, that they like.

I have made one rule thought. I do not give and won’t allow my youngest son to eat any animal flesh,regardless of the fact that the other boys can. It is quite easy actually as I don’t fuss about it and the older boys are perfectly fine with it.

On a daily basis I will prepare at least one vegan and one non vegan meal and recently nearly all of the vegan food I cook is toddler friendly.

I find it incredibly easy to feed him and he loves all kinds of food and I am hoping that he will continue to do so.

Apart from the obvious things like hummus, falafels , vegetables, beans, potatoes , a and different kind of roasted/boiled vegetables  I also make tomato based sauses and raw spinach pesto. He likes them both with rice or pasta, not so keen on couscous though but I am working on perfecting the recipe.

 

The tomato sauce is incredibly easy and simple to make and you can add your own twist to it. The other day I added some fried aubergines(another favourite of mine). Aubergines are amazing source of salty fatty yummyness if you like this kind of food. I will write a post dedicated to my love for aubergines another time.

Here is the recipe for the tomato sauce that I prepare weekly, sometimes twice weekly. I make a big pot of it and have used it when making pizza. Feel free to adapt the spiciness to your own taste as I know every family has their own sweet spot.

Basic Tomato Sauce (Mediterranean style)

  • 2 small onions -peeled and nicely sliced
  • 2 cloves of garlic
  • 3 spoonfuls of sweet paprika
  • 500 mg of tomato passata
  • 400 mg or more of water
  • some red wine(optional)
  • basil
  • oregano
  • cumin seeds
  • fennel seeds
  • mint
  • salt and pepper
  • olive oil
Instructions
  1. First saute the onions with the garlic in the olive oil with all the herbs .When they are almost cooked add the potato cubes and the paprika,
  2. Mix and let it simmer for 10 minutes.Add a spash of wine halfway if you choose to use wine.
  3. Then add the tomato passata and some water, making sure all the potatoes are well covered.
  4. Let it simmer on a low heat until the potatoes are cooked and become soft.
The wine adds richness to the recipe, but it tastes just as good without it. Once your sauce  is ready you can add lots of different vegetables. My favourite are broccoli, cauliflower, fried aubergines, fried courgettes, mushrooms, greeen beans. The possibilities are endless.
Serve the sauce with some cooked rice or pasta and enjoy.
 
One of the great things about being vegan is also the rediscovery of certain foods. Walnuts have become now a staple food in my diet as a source of Omega 3 as well as flax seeds and hemp seeds. All these are generally very easy to buy from most supermarkets.
 
When it come to walnuts though I am very lucky as my parents have a walnut tree in Bulgaria and we eat some of the nicest walnuts available.
I use walnuts in many ways, including walnut baklava which is by far the sweetest recipe I have ever created.
 
I make green pesto with walnuts almost every week as well. It keeps in the fridge for a few days, it’s versatile and so easy to make.
All you need is a basic blender.
 
Spinach walnut  pesto
  • a bag of spinach
  • big bunch of fresh basil
  • 2 cloves of garlic
  • 1-2 spoonfuls of lemon juice
  • olive oil
  • a handful of soaked  walnuts(soaked in water for a few hours)

Feel free to replace the nuts with cashew nuts or pine nuts. It works just as good.

All you have to do is simply blend everything for about 90 seconds until you get a smooth paste.

Serve with pasta and some sliced avocado and cucumber. My toddler loves it.So do I.

It is incredibly easy to make simple delicious and toddler friendly food.

Thank you for being here.

Drink sweet coffee and be spicy!

Ivelina

 
 

The Tao of Motherhood

Ivelina  —  July 26, 2015

 I am first and foremost me, but right after that, I am a mother. The best thing that I can ever be, is me. But the best gift that I will ever have, is being a mother.”
― C. JoyBell C.

The word”tao” is not very common in my vocabulary, but i decided to take part in a 30 Day blogging Challenge and the first Blog Prompt is called “The Tao of xxxx”. I stopped for a moment and reflected to find the word, that I would like to write about and intuitively “motherhood” came to me. I choose motherhood, because is the woman’s role as a parent. Parenthood is rather broad but motherhood is special in my eyes. 

 

What does tao means really? Tao according to Oxford dictionary is (In Chinese philosophy) the absolute principle underlying the universe, combining within itself the principles of yin and yang and signifying the way, or code of behaviour, that is in harmony with the natural order.

Motherhood is an universe in itself, but also has it’s balancing parts which is a inevitable part of life and nature itself. It is a 24/7 lifelong calling, gift, choice and a identity for many women, whether they have given birth or not. The principles of Motherhood to me are quite simple, but in it’s simplicity lies the magic of connectivity and love. 

 


 

 

1.Your children are your gifts that come through you and you choose to love and nurture them. There are countless ways to express love, but love has to be shared to grow, no matter in what way you find possible.

I don’t read parenting books and I simply follow my heart and intuition when it comes to my children.

In my mind I am  a wild intuitive mother, that likes things to happen naturally and peacefully.

I do my best to do what is best for each of my boys. Each child is different and have a different character and that alone has made my life so rich and incredibly full of experiences and lessons. So just love your children actively in your own way. DAILY! Show them love the way you feel you should. 

 


 

 

2.Take care of the mother in you. As a woman you possibly have many roles and being a mother is one of them. You are a friend, a daughter a lover and possibly work somewhere, too.All these are great and they do make you the person you are and your activities and priorities do change from time to time, so go with it.

How do you take care of the mother in you? You take care of your body. Sleep well. Eat well. Take your time to read, walk or whatever it is that you do that you love.

Cooking can be both therapeutic and practical. House work is the same  to me anyway. I call hoovering an active meditation as it’s clears my mind. Become aware of your triggers when you feel stressed or overwhelmed. Normally the deep reason for them can be dealt with so pay attention to your inner voice and listen to it.

motherhood

3.Learn to let go. There should be a class in school for all  girls that mothers have to learn to let go. I have written a blog post about that in my other blog in more detail about the hardest thing about being a mother is to learn to let go.

In a nutshell I believe that letting go has been the hardest thing for me to learn. To learn that I can not possibly control every situation, can not possibly control how quickly my kids grow and all the choices that they make.

Let go of the need to be needed all the time, to mother them like babies even when they are almost teenagers now.

Learning to let go of the need to be a model mother and to have everything perfect and organised. Also another one is the letting of the person I was before I became mother. All these lessons are ongoing paths, that I take daily. 

 


 

There is no formula for a perfect motherhood. You are a part of the magical circle of life and you connect the branches so beautifully. Motherhood teaches me to put others needs in front of mine, it teaches me to be open minded like to other book I have ever read. Motherhood is a priceless personal development “class” that I take almost every day. I love the constant challenges, demands and the endless love that it brings to my lie. 

I can not imagine myself not being a mother and this is how it’s going to be. I aim to give and teach my kids everything that I know and when they think of unconditional love I want them to think of me. 

 

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“How is it that mothers can be regarded by so many people as both angel and villain, chaste vessel of purity and whore, queen of wisdom and consummate idiot?” Claire Raynor

Whether you are a mother, have chosen not to be or can not have children, the concept of motherhood is something that you have thought about. We all share some strong cultural believes about motherhood. Some of them are true, some are not, some of them depends. 

1.Women are born to be mothers

2.Motherhood is instinctive

3.Mother knows best

4.Motherhood is a bliss

…………………………………………….being a mother

All of the above put an enormous pressure on most mothers to follow these “believes”. Motherhood is a lot harder than society has made us to believe.Motherhood is an emotional roller-coaster,a path of self discovery( sometimes reluctant) and a never ending learning path on how to deal and respond to it all.

 

As a mother of 3 amazing boys I have learned much more stuff from my boys than all my years of university, high school and all the books I have read combined. 

 

I am not great with pictures, unless it comes to some of the food I make. Images are a simply moments and they work both ways-they make us laugh and make us cry, too.

being a mother

Not a great quality,but at least we are all looking at the camera at the same time 🙂

I managed to find this picture of me and the boys from last September. I don’t have the habit to take any pictures of them.

Bringng up another human being is a responsibility like no other. I sometimes wonder am I a good enough mother? Am I doing the best I can? What would my kids think of me when they become parents themselves? How will the remember me? Those questions I carry with me all the time. 

I like to give to my kids unconditionally love and nurture. I am also constantly building my relationship with them in becoming better friends and team players(like I like to call it). When people live together the main thing is to make it work for everyone. My home is a pure, loving and nurturing place for my men and anybody who visits us. 

Being a good enough mother expands into being a good enough friend, sister and a teacher. 

 

It is time to let go of self criticism and regrets of past mistakes, Yes,I did give my eldest child too much pasta, instead of broccoli, yes I worked too much when my second boy was only a year old, yes, I almost lost everything when the turd  boy was only a few years old…………………But all that is a part of the story. The story of being a mother, that is constantly learning and reinvnting herself. 

My greatest gift is the knowledge, that I have helped those 3 boys to love life, appreciate health and cherish those they love. The rest it is simply a story. 

If you are a mother and you are reading this please feel free to leave me a comment. I would love to hear from you! 

Thank you for being here! I love and appreciate you.

Ivelina