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Self development my a$$

Ivelina  —  January 12, 2018

The self-development industry in USA alone generates $1 billion in revenue every year. In 2008 Deepak Chopra made $1.3 million through a book and speaking tour where the core message was :to take responsibility for your own actions.

I had this book. It didn’t help me to find my purpose in life.It’s in the bottom of the pond in my old house.The  new owners filled up the pond with soil. So I am sure the worms enjoyed it.

The main force behind the self development industry is that we as humans have to strive to better ourselves in all aspects of our lives. Why should we? We are also told by the same personal development masters( read Brian Tracy and Antony Robins), that we are unique and magnificent humans.

I disagree with a lot of this. I do also know that for some people this is exactly the message they want to hear. Fair enough. Do whatever it takes to be yourself.

In my years of attending different personal development seminars and reading books on the same subject I have realised a few solid principles. I want to share them with you.

1.You are what you do daily. You are not your country, your religion or the smart goals that you are setting for yourself. You are not your magnificent intentions either, thank you very much Mr Chopra for this.Whatever you do daily frames you in many incredible ways. It is the small daily actions that you take that determent the person that you are and the results that you are getting.

2.You will never get it all done As much as I don’t want to I know now that life is in constant motion. Change is the only sure thing in life. No matter what I have completed, there is always something else next.Next task, next challenge and next reward. So for as long as I breath I will keep going and do my best to enjoy the climb!

3.You are free to make a choice. Yes, but you are not free from the consequences of your choice. In any given situation you have a choice including the choice of going with the flow. This is the choice that I take in 90% of my life. I don’t see myself as an Alpha Female. It feels much more natural to me to be following the invisible flow of the seen and unseen things, rather than trying to demand anything.

4.You are here to give and receive Love. The only thing that will disappear once you die will be the love that you have been giving and receiving. The rest is replaceable and sadly disposable. So while you are here give and receive love in whatever way possible you find fit.

5. Gratitude is the magic state of being alive. The next level is grace. This has nothing to do with any religion. This is simply a way of being human. It took me years to appreciate the importance of that state. I have been very ungrateful at certain times in my life and the ripple effect of my actions then still affect me from time to time.

Overall I believe that you can get more self-development results if you simply start being more present in your life and with the people around you. 

Thank once again for reading this far.

Enjoy the ride and drink nice coffee,

Ivelina

Do you need a boost in willpower?

This post will cover what willpower is and how to increase it systematically. If you apply these tips consistently, you’ll find your motivation and willpower increasing a little more each day.

What is Willpower?

Let’s break it down.

Your will is your capacity to make conscious choices.

Willpower, then, refers to your level of motivation to make the conscious choices that serve you best. It’s that simple. Willpower is the motivation to make healthy, conscious choices for yourself.

The opposite of willpower is to run on autopilot, following your automatically generated whims. This is often a source of self-sabotage. For many of us, the autopilot is set to failure. We need greater willpower to make course corrections.

Here are your three tips, based on principles of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

1. Identify something small that you’d like to choose every day.

It needs to be simple, such as write for five minutes in your journal, or meditate for 10 minutes, or exercise for 20 minutes. Don’t get greedy. Make it easy to do.

If you bite off more than you can chew, you might activate resistance to making the right choice. Once you get going, you can always choose to increase the effort. For now, you just want to make it easy to get started.

2. Reward yourself on the inside when you do it.

It’s important to feel good when you make good choices. Develop a simple system to congratulate yourself and feel positive when you succeed. For example, when you succeed, you might recite a simple affirmation:

My willpower is increasing and it feels great!

This is an important part of the process. If you don’t allow yourself to feel good after exercising your willpower, then you are less likely to exercise it in the future.

willpower tips

3. When you fail, be honest with yourself, without self-criticism.

Failure is part of the process. Don’t be afraid to fail. And never criticize yourself for failing. Just be honest. For example, you might say to yourself.

I failed today. It’s part of the process. I’ll begin anew tomorrow.

Self-criticism for failing will motivate you away from willpower. It attaches negative feelings to the effort.

Remember, it’s all about using your conscious intention – that’s what willpower is!

Bonus tip: Begin by choosing a limited time period within which you will work on your willpower. This simplifies the effort. For example, choose to work on a specific new behavior for a period of just five days. Short time frames reduce the potential overwhelm that can come with really large goals. When your five days are up, celebrate and renew the effort!

Mike Bundrant is co-founder of the iNLP Center. Follow Mike on Facebook.

Hello, my beautiful friends
personal development is a journey , that every human being can take.personal development myths
There is no right or wrong way of doing it.Each journey is unique and special and once you take the first step of being your true self you become a true expression of your talents and values.

Over the years of my own continues personal growth I have come across 3 myths and this is what today’s video is about. Please press play to watch it.

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Ivelina