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4 tips on how to live better

Ivelina  —  January 6, 2018

“Human life expectancy has increased more in the last 50 years than in the previous 200 000 years of human existence.” (source)

Life is for living and it’s precious and it is a gift. This is all well and good to say but how do we make out time on Earth better. To live better means to wake up in the morning eager to get up after a wonderful night sleep. To look forward to your day and fill it with tasks, pleasure and communications according to your standards and wishes. 

I take great pleasure in the simple things, like a nice cup of coffee, freshly baked bread, ripe peach, soft warm sand(mostly green grass here in Northern Ireland),hugs, kisses, nice chocolate, red wine, eating falafels, drinking blueberry smoothie,talking with my kids,making plans for spending money, looking out the window when it’s raining and I am warm and dry inside,watching movies,walking,being alone in the morning, getting my hair done,having friends over for dinner, going on spontaneous day trips, shopping , reading, cooking…..The list is endless. I want to share with you this simple pleasure of living, being and breathing. Here are a few things, that might help you to live a little better in your own way.

1.Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes a day. In a world that demands your attention every second of your awake life you have to unplug and be silent in order to remain sane. I do feel I have to think about EVERYTHING. I am getting better at sharing my mental preparation and space with other people, I can do better every time. I do force myself to stop.It works.I prefer the morning quietness and sometimes the evening serenity. It is a mini therapy for the oversubscribed mind of mine, that likes multitasking and is constantly planning and organising “everything” .

2.Do the right thing .I know how it goes. Doing the right thing is not always fair. In fact it is most certainly un-fair. Just deal with it. I know that some situations require longer than others to get over/forgive/deal with but the main thing is to keep your myself in motion. One of the best things, that my granny told me once was not to take trivial, daily,domestic issue to heart. There is a time and a place to listen mainly to your heart, but when it comes to the small stuff, just deal with it. It took me ages to fully understand and practice this but I feel better for it.

3.What other people think of you is non of your business. I have to be honest here. I do care what others think of me, to an extend. I like to be liked appreciated and to make a difference in the life of the people around me and online. I feel responsible to keep myself useful and proactive, also want to avoid conflicts. Since I have made the decision to write a blog I have realised that I have to share honestly and truthfully. I do afraid of being criticised, but in the words of the philosopher the only way not to be criticised is to “say nothing and do nothing” .The choice is mine.

4.Enjoy the f&%$ing ride. Life is a f&%$ing roller coaster. One minute it’s all great and I am getting things done and then the next minute my dishwasher is broken. One minute my dishwasher is broken and another minute one of my sons brake his leg.One minute my son has a broken leg and another minute I get a new tumble drier. One minute I get a new tumble drier and another minute I am booking a trip to Bulgaria. One minute I am booking a trip to Bulgaria and another minute there is an argument shall we go through France or the Netherlands…..,……

Thank you very much for reading this far.

Keep your coffee sweet and your life spicy!


The Reasons Psychotherapists Think Mindfulness Is Beneficial For Your Wellbeing

How Do Mindfulness and Psychotherapy Synergize?

Being an integrative psychotherapist, I observed that residing in such a chaotic, active city induces stress. My method of working draws on different categories of thought. These approaches utilize humanistic, existential and attachment theory whilst using approaches such as mindfulness.

Lately I have found myself wondering about the applications of mindfulness. Many times one concludes that meditation includes finding a means to stop one from thinking. But if you’ve tried this you’ll know that attempting not to think has the reverse conclusion.

The brain enjoys having an object to focus its attention. Something to keep it occupied. An interesting fact about human beings – is that we frequently stuff our brain with thoughts and thinking in the form of words and dialogue. Not the entirety of it but the biggest chunk of it.

But what happens when we provide the brain an object of focus that is less word inducing? Walking in a London park, and noticing the sounds that are nearby, try focusing to the audio itself. Pick one of your senses and provide it more importance in your brain. And see how it makes you feel. If thinking comes in play, just gently bring the attention back to the previous experience.

Which illnesses can a psychotherapist help using mindfulness?

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Particular areas that are a result of a stressful life are anxiety, depression, and addictions. Many people will feel depression at some time in their lives. And quite commonly they may happen at the same time, like depression with anxiety. There can often be experiences of low mood and anxiety when someone is in the grasp of addiction. These are some of the scenarios that I incorporate the application of mindfulness as part of my practice.

“I am especially thrilled about the growth of the ‘Mindfulness Project’ – a London based group that is developing an array of mindfulness initiatives. As a team they will be developing new and fascinating ways of using of mindfulness. I will carry on building my own awareness about how mindfulness practices can be used to increase good health, mental health and its overall effect on a person’s health. Just like it is with anxiety, mindfulness can be used where there is depression to alleviate some of the consequences of negative self talk.”

Doug is a psychotherapist London. He has been practicing in the city for several years and has worked in a variety of clinical settings.

Is Borderline Personality Disorder Residential Treatment right for you?
Successful Borderline Personality Disorder treatment is a quite often a complicated matter. At some point of your life you will experience emotions , that might be too hard to handle on your own. There comes a time when you feel overwhelmed and visiting a residential treatment could be a place where you will feel welcome. The Meehl house is a place where you will receive a targeted treatment in a loving envirioment. 

 Borderline Personality Disorder Residential Treatment at the Meehl House

The Meehl House was created by Debra and Mark Meehl as a place for healing and hope for anyone with a diagnosis of a Borderline Personality Disorder , Bipolar Disorder, Depression, Anxiety and any other mood disorder conditions. The Meehl Foundation is located in Brazoria in Texas and welcomes people from all over the world for a Borderline Personality Disorder Residential Treatment . They have over 25 years of combined experience in successfully treating people. They are Intensively Trained in DBT, REBT, Schema therapy and the Amen Brain Healthy model.

Most people choose a 90 day program where they participate in daily activities and treatments which include 4 hours of Group per day, Monday-Friday: Dialectical Behavioural Therapy ,Rational Emotive Behaviour therapy ,12-step Relapse-Prevention , Amen Brain Health, Boundaries and Emotional Blackmail. As well as that every client will also receive a nutrition and spiritual counselling, fitness club membership and massage/acupuncture treatment. 

The newest addition to the amazing list of treatments, classes and activities is  the Amen Brain Healthy Treatment Program  It is based on a research and extensive work by Dr.Amen and is based on the fact, that by looking at the brain image of the patient the therapist can provide a more extensive and individualized treatment.

 Amen Brain Healthy Treatment Program looks very deeply into each individual until it gets to the bottom of the problem. It looks in all aspects of our life-biological, social, phychological and spiritual. Skilled team will be with you all the way and taking every step to make sure you get specific targeted treatment with the best outcome possible.

Using the least toxic and most targeted treatment can be achieved in the loving caring environment at the Meehl house. 

One treatment will never work for anyone who is depressed, stressed , inattentive or addictive and that is why the Amen therapy is a crustal way of treating Borderline Personality Disorder.

At the Meehl House they really want to understand you, rather than just look at your symptoms and give you a label. Dealing with emotional problems and disorders puts a lot of strain on any individual and the team at Meehl house understand that very well. Click here for more information and on line free assessment.

 Here is a short video where you can see Debra Meehl explaining what does the Borderline Personality Disorder Residential Treatment is about. Please click play to watch it. 


 Debra Meehl, DD, MSW Pastoral Counsellor,DBT Therapist & Skills Trainer , Board Certified Hypnotist & President, Meehl Foundation

At the Meehl House there is a strong focus on helping you live healthy and happy lives.

Everyone in the team has set a priority to find the holistic approach to care and working towards wellness of mind, body and spirit.
The work done with each individual will help them learn to meditate and practice control over their actions and thoughts.
Taking care of your body is a vital part of achieving wellness. As well as Nutrition counselling during your stay you will also learn and establish healthy eating habits. Eating more whole foods and taking care of your body is a part of looking after your brain heath.
There is also an extensive library of books, videos and tapes on self help, personal development and spirituality. 


 Mark & Debra Meehl“As a couple, and based upon our own experiences, we believe that hope and healing are not just a possibility but a realistic possibility;and with proper treatment for your loved one and conscientious attention from you and others who are concerned, your relationship with your loved one can do more than survive – it can thrive!”
Mark & Debra Meehl


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