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4 tips on how to live better

Ivelina  —  January 6, 2018

“Human life expectancy has increased more in the last 50 years than in the previous 200 000 years of human existence.” (source)

Life is for living and it’s precious and it is a gift. This is all well and good to say but how do we make out time on Earth better. To live better means to wake up in the morning eager to get up after a wonderful night sleep. To look forward to your day and fill it with tasks, pleasure and communications according to your standards and wishes. 

I take great pleasure in the simple things, like a nice cup of coffee, freshly baked bread, ripe peach, soft warm sand(mostly green grass here in Northern Ireland),hugs, kisses, nice chocolate, red wine, eating falafels, drinking blueberry smoothie,talking with my kids,making plans for spending money, looking out the window when it’s raining and I am warm and dry inside,watching movies,walking,being alone in the morning, getting my hair done,having friends over for dinner, going on spontaneous day trips, shopping , reading, cooking…..The list is endless. I want to share with you this simple pleasure of living, being and breathing. Here are a few things, that might help you to live a little better in your own way.

1.Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes a day. In a world that demands your attention every second of your awake life you have to unplug and be silent in order to remain sane. I do feel I have to think about EVERYTHING. I am getting better at sharing my mental preparation and space with other people, I can do better every time. I do force myself to stop.It works.I prefer the morning quietness and sometimes the evening serenity. It is a mini therapy for the oversubscribed mind of mine, that likes multitasking and is constantly planning and organising “everything” .

2.Do the right thing .I know how it goes. Doing the right thing is not always fair. In fact it is most certainly un-fair. Just deal with it. I know that some situations require longer than others to get over/forgive/deal with but the main thing is to keep your myself in motion. One of the best things, that my granny told me once was not to take trivial, daily,domestic issue to heart. There is a time and a place to listen mainly to your heart, but when it comes to the small stuff, just deal with it. It took me ages to fully understand and practice this but I feel better for it.

3.What other people think of you is non of your business. I have to be honest here. I do care what others think of me, to an extend. I like to be liked appreciated and to make a difference in the life of the people around me and online. I feel responsible to keep myself useful and proactive, also want to avoid conflicts. Since I have made the decision to write a blog I have realised that I have to share honestly and truthfully. I do afraid of being criticised, but in the words of the philosopher the only way not to be criticised is to “say nothing and do nothing” .The choice is mine.

4.Enjoy the f&%$ing ride. Life is a f&%$ing roller coaster. One minute it’s all great and I am getting things done and then the next minute my dishwasher is broken. One minute my dishwasher is broken and another minute one of my sons brake his leg.One minute my son has a broken leg and another minute I get a new tumble drier. One minute I get a new tumble drier and another minute I am booking a trip to Bulgaria. One minute I am booking a trip to Bulgaria and another minute there is an argument shall we go through France or the Netherlands…..,……

Thank you very much for reading this far.

Keep your coffee sweet and your life spicy!

Ivelina