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31-day Blogging Challenge The time I felt defeated- what happened next

When I read the title of today’s blog prompt from my 31 days Blogging Challenge, all I can think about is one of my favourite quotes of all time.

It’s always darkest just before the dawn

Tomas Fuller said that, but he attributed it to an Irish saying. There is a beautiful saying amongst the Irish peasantry to inspire hope under adverse circumstances:- “Remember,” they say, “that the darkest hour of all. is the hour before day.”

I do know that it’s a cliche, but sometimes you need a cliche in your life.

When I feel stuck, defeated, overwhelmed and too sad I cry a lot. I feel that this is the time when I am real with myself. I literally sit with myself feeling defeated and let that feeling pass.

If I feel defeated I simply stew in it until I get out of it. My first experience of feeling defeated was when I was a student and I got my handbag stolen with all the money I had and my passport in it. It is one of the most annoying things that can happen to anyone.

Then the first thing I did was ring my mum, then my aunt and then I felt good again. The whole thing did leave a bitter taste in me, but I am so glad it’s over now.

To me the hard times pass, the times I feel stuck pass, sadness pass. Everything that you feel while you in this state of defeat passes.

The most important thing is to remember NOT to make any decisions while you are in a state of defeat. You might be doing that from despair, not motivation.

The benefit of having times like these is that I appreciate when things are not like that and I am so grateful that I get both.

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